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N 無爸爸的一封信 *
Letter from an 'N have-nots' Dad 1
Rev Eva Lok
My dear children
Ever since you became parents, you have been working non-stop to earn a living and raise your children. I can see your hard work. I hope that amid all the hustle and bustle, you will not forget that you, too, are my children.
No condition to Love: It is not easy to embrace your children's mistakes with love and to be patient with their changing emotions. I know that you have your own limitations. You may have taken courses on parenting, but there are times when you are at a loss of what to do with your innocent and energetic children. Love is a difficult lesson. You easily feel exhausted in love when your children seem less likable and you are energy drained. But don't give up, my children! You are also loved. I love you unconditionally. I am the source of love. I love you not because you are a successful dad or mom. You are only parents with limited wisdom, ability and love. When you get frustrated and despair, let me fill you with my love, encourage and empower you.
No end to patience: There is no "most successful dad and mom" on earth, only growing parents. You try your very best to cope with your children growing up so that they will not be hurt by any chance. Still, the mistakes can be plentiful. Don’t be afraid, my children! I know your weaknesses. With your packed schedules, you are losing patience and your heart is weary, making you prone to anger. Despite your love for your children, there may be times when you hurt them unintentionally. It is indeed difficult to be always patient. Yet, when you make mistakes, I will accept you with my endless patience. When you grow weary and on the verge of explosion with an uncooperative child, pause and come to me and I will give you patience.
No limit to grace: These days, especially with the peer pressure from comparison, it takes a high intelligence quotient, emotional quotient and adversity quotient to be parents. In the winding development course of your children, you need time, energy, money… and most importantly, grace. When you have done your very best to prepare for your children and the outcome is less than satisfactory, trust in me as my grace is sufficient for you. Your children may sometimes make you disappointed, but do not give up too easily. I never give you up despite your weaknesses and limitations, but with endless grace I forgive your intentional and unintentional mistakes. So, treat your children with grace. Grace makes for much healthier development than punishment. "My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness" (2 Corinthians 12:9).
Love you deeply
"N have-nots" Dad
1This "N have-nots" Dad (N 無爸爸) is our Heavenly Father. Apart from the three "no's" above, there is also no end to His keeping, no limit to His power, no stop for His watching… When you get close to Him, you will discover more "no"…