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不要讓憤怒成為仇恨

蕭壽華牧師

這段日子,我們每當看見社會上所出現的衝突、襲擊事件,都會感到不安、傷痛,甚至不能入睡。這些情緒往往會引發出憤怒,並會向旁人甚或身邊最親密的人爆發出來。

憤怒可以是人對不義之事產生的反應,能引動出糾正不義的動力,但人的怒氣也可以轉變成仇恨,進而產生惡念、殺害。人常常是在自義與缺乏自制的情緒下回應惡事,認為自己所行的是出於「義怒」,因此進入了仇恨之中而不自知。門徒跟隨耶穌上路,路經撒瑪利亞,但當地人因他們朝向耶路撒冷而不接待他們,門徒就提出要吩咐火從天降下來燒滅這些不尊重主的人群。主立時轉身責備他們:「你們的心如何,你們並不知道。人子來不是要滅人的性命,是要救人的性命。」(路九 51-56)門徒以為是要替天行道,卻不知道自己是因為自尊受損而在憤怒中萌生殺人傷人的意念。

我們看見社會上不公不義的事,會有個人的判斷,但判斷常受個人接觸到的資訊及個人的經歷影響,不一定能叫我們準確掌握真相,而在傷痛中我們總會出現同情一方、反對另一方的看法。我們表達自己的看法時,有時會遇到別人不同的看法,又或是別人指責自己所同情的一方,這些時刻,往往就是個人受傷害的情緒與另一方同樣受傷害的情緒碰撞在一起的時刻,而不受控制的怒氣便會在這情況下像泄洪般湧現,加深自己的傷害,也傷害別人。

主被釘十架,受到最不公義的對待,但祂並沒有因此憤怒。備受羞辱時,祂竟然說「他們所作的他們不曉得」,為傷害祂的人解釋犯錯的原因,求父赦免他們!主可以不懷恨,是因為祂已將自己的生命交託那信實的創造者,祂相信神會鑒察並掌握著祂的生命,祂知道天父必會保守、看顧自己。也因為這種信任,祂在客西馬尼園面對無理的拘拿時,會吩咐彼得「收刀入鞘吧!凡動刀的,必死在刀下」,祂沒有容許惡去回應惡。

不錯,我們會有憤怒,但不要讓它轉變成仇恨,「生氣卻不要犯罪」,在過程中我們需要回到主前,安靜交託,知道主仍在掌權、鑒察。若能有弟兄姊妹聆聽、分擔自己的鬱悶是好的,但小心別要求別人必須認同你的看法,更不要把怒氣發泄在他們身上。我們要彼此聆聽,彼此明白,同心求主保守這城,也保守自己不要有仇恨,可以真實的以善勝惡,行出公義。





Pastor's Sharing
Don’t Let Anger Turn into Hatred
Rev Gordon Siu


Recently, we may be saddened. We feel uneasy over scenes of conflict and attack, which could affect our sleep. Some may also get angry, which is readily felt by the people around including those dearest to them.

We may be angry in the face of injustice. Anger can trigger actions to correct unrighteousness, but it can also turn into hatred, generating vicious wishes or desires to kill. Man often respond to unrighteousness with self-righteousness without self-restraint, thinking that he is acting out of "righteous anger." But he is really immersed in hatred without knowing it. Once when the Lord Jesus travelled with His disciples, He was not welcome by Samaritan villagers because He was heading for Jerusalem. Two of the disciples suggested calling fire down from heaven to destroy the villagers who had no respect for Him (Luke 9:51-56). But Jesus turned and rebuked them, saying "You do not know what kind of spirit you are of; for the Son of Man did not come to destroy men's lives, but to save them" (Luke 9:56, NASB). The disciples thought they would be acting on behalf of God. Little did they know that they were really trying to kill or injure others out of hurt self-esteem.

We have our own verdict on issues of social injustice. But the verdict is often affected by our experience and the sort of information we receive. These may not give us the whole picture. In sadness, we take sides. When we express our view, we sometimes come across opposing views. The other party may reprimand the party we sympathize with. That is when our hurt feelings clash with others' hurt feelings. Uncontrolled anger arises like the release of flows from a dam, aggravating the damage to ourselves and to others.

The Lord Jesus on the cross was subjected to the most unjust treatment, but He was not angry. Insulted and humiliated, He still said: "They do not know what they are doing" (Luke 23:34). He spoke for those who hurt Him and sought God's forgiveness on their behalf! The Lord has no hatred because He entrusted His life with the faithful Creator and knew that God would oversee and control His life. God keeps and oversees. The same trust in God made Him, when facing groundless arrest at Gethsemane, to tell Peter to "Put your sword back in its place…for all who draw the sword will die by the sword" (Matthew 26:52). Jesus did not allow evil to be repaid with evil.

We may be angry, but never let anger turn into hatred. “In your anger do not sin” (Ephesians 4:26). Come before God, calm down and entrust yourself to Him, knowing that God still reigns and overseas everything. It is good to have some brothers and sisters listen to you and share your grievance. However, make sure that you do not insist on the other person's agreement with your view and never vent your anger on that person. Let us listen to one another and understand one another. With one heart, let us ask the Lord to watch over this city. Let us pray that we do not fall prey to hatred, that we can really overcome evil with good, and that we will live out righteousness in what we do.