牧者心聲
信仰與性倫理
曾敬宗牧師
2025 年 3 月 1 日 /2 日
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一位海外肢體與未滿三歲的孩子講故事，提及家庭中有爸爸和媽媽，孩子很快便回應：「不對，老師說有媽媽和媽媽！」父母頓時不知如何應對。另有領袖想在團契中提醒團友避免男女二人旅行同住和staycation，但發覺越來越難作出勸勉。「性倫理」在華人社會中仍是一種忌諱，但流行文化卻叫我們無法置身事外，許多入屋入腦的串流平台劇集和電影都加入刺激官能的情節和畫面，而同志元素或性開放的觀念也早已成為「流量密碼」或「意識形態正確」的商業元素，潛移默化地改變著社會的風氣和思想。
今季教會崇拜主題是創世記，神在頭六天的創造，都是為人預備一個最好的環境。神又照著自己的形像造人，祂所創造的有男有女。然後神看祂所造的一切都極之好，更定意要賜福人。在未有父母家庭出現時神就設定了「人要離開父母，與妻子連合，二人成為一體」、「夫妻二人赤身露體，並不羞恥」的倫理關係。新約中更提醒夫妻關係是「人不能分開」的，這也是神為著人的好處而定下的設計。可惜，人卻定意要在神的創造上逆向而行——夏娃摘下分別善惡樹的果子；該隱奪取神所造的生命；人要建造巴別塔⋯⋯
但直到今天，人內心仍然渴望能得著從一而終的愛。也有不少研究指出，父母維持婚姻關係，對子女成長是最有益的。同時父母離婚比父母離世對子女會造成更負面的影響。這一切似乎都在顯示：神在倫理上的設計是為了人的好處。但我們如何持守神的美意？除了警醒不被性開放的文化感染吞噬外，也要幫助別人（特別是我們的兒女）明白和擁抱神的心意。
我們必須在神話語上有正確的詮釋，也要在性倫理上有適切的認知，下功夫是必要的，否則就會令人誤會基督徒盲守規條不講理。基督徒父母更要在家中活出信仰，彼此順服相愛，叫孩子有安全感。父母的身教遠勝於言教，孩子若看見父母彼此對罵、傷害，怎能不對某個性別產生恐懼抗拒、甚至失去自信呢？惟有在家中不避諱地關心傾談信仰和性倫理（不限於幼兒性別特徵和界線認知，更關心男女進入青春期的變化、以及對性的疑惑），才能幫助孩子擁抱信仰。我們若能善用社會學研究，並透過不同崗位作出合乎情與理的回應，就能對應人內心的真實需要，讓社會明白天父的美意。
A church member living overseas was telling a story to their child, who was not yet three years old, and mentioned that a family consists of a father and a mother. The child immediately responded, "That's wrong. My teacher says there can be a mommy and a mommy!" The parents were momentarily at a loss for words. In another situation, a fellowship leader wanted to advise members against having a brother and a sister traveling together and sharing accommodations or going on staycations, but found it increasingly difficult to offer such counsel. "Sexual ethics" remains a taboo in Chinese society, but popular culture makes it impossible for us to ignore it. Many streaming platform series and movies that have made their way into our homes and minds include plots and scenes designed to stimulate the senses. Elements of homosexuality or sexual openness have long become "passwords for going viral" or "ideologically correct" commercial features, subtly reshaping social attitudes and perceptions.
This quarter, our church's sermon theme is Genesis. In the first six days of creation, God prepared the best possible environment for man. He then created mankind in His own image, male and female He created them. God saw that everything He had made was very good and He chose to bless humanity. Even before parents or family structures existed, God had already instituted marital relationship: "That is why a man leaves his father and mother and is united to his wife, and they become one flesh. Adam and his wife were both naked, and they felt no shame" (Genesis 2:24-25). The New Testament also reminds us to "let no one separate" in the relationship between husband and wife (Matthew 19:6). That is God's design for the benefit of man. Yet, man has chosen to rebel against God's creation order – Eve took the fruit from the tree of the knowledge of good and evil; Cain took a life that God had created; mankind sought to build the Tower of Babel…
However, even till now, the human heart still longs for love that is faithful and enduring. Numerous studies indicate that children benefit the most when their parents maintain a stable marriage, whereas parental divorce has a more detrimental effect on children than the loss of a parent due to death. All of this seems to affirm that God's design for family and sexual ethics is for the good of humanity. But how can we uphold God's perfect will? Beyond being vigilant against the influence of a culture of sexual openness, we must also help others (especially our children) understand and embrace God’s will.
We need sound interpretation of God's word and proper understanding of sexual ethics. Efforts in these areas are essential, or Christians would risk being misunderstood as blindly following rules without reason. Christian parents, in particular, must live out their faith at home, demonstrating mutual submission and love, so that their children can have a sense of security. Parental example speaks louder than words. If children see their parents constantly arguing and hurting each other, how can they not develop fear, rejection, or even a loss of confidence in a particular gender? Only by openly discussing both faith and sexual ethics at home – not just teaching young children about their biological differences and personal boundaries, but also addressing the emotional and physical changes of adolescence, as well as questions about sexuality – can we help our children embrace their faith. If we can wisely apply sociological research and respond in our various roles in ways that are both rational and compassionate, we will be able to address the genuine needs of people's hearts and help society understand our Heavenly Father's perfect will.
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