牧者心聲
做青少年的成長夥伴：認識、接納、引導
陳劍雲牧師
2025 年 7 月 12 日／13 日
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在這資訊爆炸、科技主導的世代，青少年面對前所未有的挑戰。他們在網絡世界穿梭，與朋輩建立複雜的關係，同時又要在家庭中尋找定位，再加上青春期本身的掙扎，令不少青少年出現精神情緒困擾，甚至經歷創傷。
青少年從兒童過渡到成年人的階段，需要建立自我的身分意識和獨立處事待人的能力。他們需要父母的愛和引導，但又渴望獨立自主。他們並不是刻意反抗父母，只是學習著為自我立界線。此外，他們生理心理都處於多變的時期，又重視自我形象和朋輩認同。同時因為有關情緒管理的腦部組織尚未發展成熟，以致他們較容易有情緒波動。
當青春期的需要和心理狀況遇上手機和網絡文化的操控，就會令青少年陷入情緒困擾和抑鬱的機會大增。現今青少年每日花大量時間在電子產品上，過度依賴網絡和社交媒體，對身心健康帶來不少風險，包括睡眠障礙、專注力下降、社交退縮等。假如他們在網絡世界遇到欺凌、排斥或不當資訊，就更容易造成心理創傷，影響自信和人際關係。有研究顯示，即使青少年頭腦上知道家人關心，但若果平時家庭關係疏離，他們遇到困難時，也大都不願和父母溝通，選擇自己承受壓力，有部分青少年甚至因此受不住誘惑而濫用藥物。
若要打開與青少年溝通的渠道，家長和導師都須放下他們是在「反叛期」這個標籤，肯定他們需要發展自己的生命，成為能慎思明辨和有良好價值觀的人。他們要脫離「聽話」這種行為模式，因為只懂聽話，如果在人際和社交網絡上遇上壞人，就十分危險了。
陪伴青少年成長，是需要認真學習的課題。我們要有相關的心理學知識，建立正面的態度，妥善解讀和有技巧地協助青少年，這也是我們心意更新和成長的過程。我們要願意進入青少年的處境，設身處地明白他們的掙扎與夢想。「高科技、低接觸」的現象，使青少年更渴望有成年人願意主動聆聽、理解和陪伴。更重要的，我們要放下權威說教和批評的姿態，給他們空間，以真誠用心的聆聽來建立親和感，如此才能與他們分享聖經真理和生活智慧。當然，我們也要用愛心立界線。父母和導師要像天父一樣，公義與慈愛並重，管教要出於愛，而非怒氣。
願我們每一位都成為青少年成長路上的祝福，見證主的愛和真理。
In this era of information overload and technology dominance, young people are facing unprecedented challenges. They navigate the virtual world, build complex peer relationships, and seek their place within their families – all while grappling with the struggles of adolescence. These factors have caused many teenagers to experience emotional and mental health issues, with some even facing trauma.
During the transitional stage from childhood to adulthood, adolescents need to develop a sense of personal identity and the ability to handle matters and relationships independently. While they still need the love and guidance of their parents, they also long for autonomy. Their actions are not necessarily deliberate acts of rebellion against their parents, but rather attempts to establish personal boundaries. Furthermore, their physical and psychological states are in flux, and they place great importance on self-image and peer acceptance. At the same time, the parts of the brain responsible for emotional regulation have not yet fully matured, making them more prone to mood swings.
When the needs and psychological state of adolescence intersect with the manipulative influences of smartphones and online culture, the chances of emotional distress and depression increase significantly. Today’s youth spend large amounts of time on electronic devices, becoming overly reliant on the internet and social media, which pose numerous risks to their physical and mental health, including sleep disorders, reduced concentration, and social withdrawal. If they encounter bullying, exclusion, or inappropriate content online, they are even more susceptible to psychological trauma, which can affect their confidence and interpersonal relationships. Studies have shown that although teenagers may intellectually know that their families care for them, if their family relationships are typically distant, they are often unwilling to talk to their parents when facing difficulties. Many choose to bear the pressure alone, and some even succumb to temptation and fall into drug abuse.
To open channels of communication with youth, parents and counselors must set aside the label of “rebellious phase” and affirm that young people need to develop into individuals capable of critical thinking and possessing sound values. They must move beyond a mere “obedient” model of behavior. It is because if they only know how to obey, they are highly vulnerable when they encounter harmful individuals in social or online settings.
Accompanying teenagers in their growth is a task that requires serious learning. We must equip ourselves with relevant psychological knowledge, foster a positive attitude, and learn to interpret their behavior appropriately and respond skillfully. This is also part of our own renewal and growth. We must be willing to enter the world of young people and truly understand their struggles and dreams. The phenomenon of “high tech, low touch” has left youth yearning for adults who will take the initiative to listen, understand, and walk with them. More importantly, we must let go of authoritative preaching and a critical posture, and instead create space for them, building rapport through sincere and attentive listening. Only then can we share biblical truths and wisdom of life with them. Of course, we must also set boundaries in love. Parents and counselors should, like our Heavenly Father, balance justice with mercy. Discipline should come from love, not from anger.
May each of us be a blessing on the growth journey of our youth, bearing witness to the love and truth of the Lord.
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