牧者心聲

為了守護少年人在身心、社交及靈性上的健康，並預防他們陷入「色情文化」及「單身是次等」的錯誤觀念，少年科於9至12月期間特別邀請了「性文化學會」為中一至中六的學生舉辦系列講座，主題如下：

曖昧的味道～男女交往的界線：少年人與異性交往時，常因渴望脫離單身、或因無意間的身體接觸，因而產生過度幻想，甚至不自覺地釋放情感，導致誤會與傷害。講員提醒：一句無心的話，聽者卻可能有心，結果不僅令對方因誤會而受傷，也可能失去寶貴的友誼。

保護友誼與愛情的原則：1.保持身體與內心的界線；2.不主動玩曖昧（避免給予「假希望」）；3.不被動陷入曖昧（保持清醒，勇於打破曖昧）；4.保護朋友以及現在／未來的愛人；5.預先培養專一的能力，避免成為「愛無能」的一代（「愛無能」指失去建立專一關係的能力）。

這些原則提醒我們，少年人的交往需要真誠與尊重，如此才能保護彼此的心靈。

色情的影響～從腦神經科學看：在網絡世界中，色情資訊隨處可得，無論主動或被動接觸都極為容易。講員指出，色情文化對生命的荼毒深遠，少年人越早接觸，危害越大。性沉溺（Sex Addiction）往往難以根治，平均需要三年時間才能康復。

陷入色情網羅的原因往往包括苦悶、無聊或壓力過大。講員鼓勵少年人以健康的活動取代色情，例如運動、聽詩歌、培養興趣或追求夢想。願天父使用這些分享，讓少年人明白「預防勝於治療」，保護自己遠離試探與誘惑，不致陷入可怕的漩渦。

單身不是罪～預備自己，迎接真愛：部分中學生渴望「出pool」，以戀愛來解決孤單或迎合同儕壓力。然而，若出於不健康的動機，往往會陷入「拍拖——分手——再拍拖——再分手」的循環，弄致身心俱疲。

講員提醒，中學生應珍惜這段成長時期，培養「愛人愛己」的能力，發掘自身優點，建立興趣，成為有內涵、健康的少年人。在合適的時間（可能是大學），才能以成熟的心靈迎接人生的新階段。

「聖潔立約日」：在三場講座之後，少年科同工於12月初為少年人舉辦「聖潔立約日」。求天父使用詩歌、見證、信息、生命回顧、立志及立約信物，幫助少年人與導師、組長一同實踐彼得前書一16的教導：「你們要聖潔，因為我是聖潔的」（新譯本）。

  To safeguard the physical, emotional, social, and spiritual well-being of our young people, and to prevent them from falling into the traps of "porn culture" or the misconception that "being single means second class," the Youth Ministry specially invited the Hong Kong Sex Culture Society Limited to conduct a series of talks from September to December for Secondary 1 to Secondary 6 students. The themes were as follows:

  The Taste of Ambiguity – Boundaries in Opposite-Sex Interaction: When interacting with the opposite sex, young people often, out of a desire to escape being single or due to unintentional physical contact, begin to imagine too much or unintentionally express emotions. This can lead to misunderstandings and hurt. The speaker reminded them that a single casual remark may be taken seriously by the listener, resulting not only in emotional harm caused by misunderstanding but also in the loss of a precious friendship.
  Principles for Protecting Friendship and Love: (1) Maintain boundaries both physically and emotionally. (2) Do not intentionally create ambiguity (avoid giving "false hope"). (3) Do not passively fall into ambiguity (stay alert and boldly break through ambiguous situations). (4) Protect your friends and your current/future lover. (5) Develop the ability to be committed in advance, avoiding becoming a generation with "love inability" (meaning the loss of the capacity to form committed relationships).
  These principles remind us that sincerity and respect are essential in young people’s relationships, so that their hearts may be protected.

  The Impact of Pornography – A Neuroscience Perspective: In the online world, pornographic content is readily available. It is extremely easy to come across it, whether intentionally or unintentionally. The speaker pointed out that porn culture is deeply damaging to life, and the younger one is exposed, the greater the harm. Sex addiction is often very difficult to cure, with recovery typically requiring an average of three years.
  Common reasons for falling into pornography include boredom, loneliness, or overwhelming stress. The speaker encouraged young people to replace pornography with healthy activities, such as exercising, listening to worship songs, developing hobbies, or pursuing dreams. May the Heavenly Father use these messages to help young people understand that “prevention is better than cure,” so that they may guard themselves against temptation and avoid falling into a destructive whirlpool.

  Being Single Is Not a Sin – Preparing Yourself to Meet True Love: Some secondary students long to "get out of the pool," hoping that romance will solve loneliness or help them fit in with peers. However, if the motivation is unhealthy, they may fall into a cycle of "dating—breaking up—dating again—breaking up again," leaving them physically and emotionally exhausted.
  The speaker reminded students to cherish this period of growth by cultivating the ability to "love others and love oneself," discovering their strengths, developing interests, and becoming mature and healthy young people. Only at the right time (perhaps in university) can they welcome a new phase of life with mature hearts.

"Holiness Covenant Day"
  After the three talks, the Youth Ministry will hold a "Holiness Covenant Day" for the young people in early December. May the Heavenly Father use the worship songs, testimonies, message, reflections on life, commitment, and covenant tokens to help the youth, together with their counselors and group leaders, live out the teaching of 1 Peter 1:16: “Be holy, because I am holy.”